You cannot love yourself if you don’t accept who you are, imperfections and all. We are not wired to be perfect. While we strive for perfection, we will never attain it, no matter how hard we try. It’s okay to have faults, and in fact, it’s what defines us as people.
To accept your faults, you first need to identify them. Going through this exercise helps you to know your limitations and means you won’t try to spend too much energy on activities that you know you can’t accomplish. You can concentrate on the items that will make a difference.
It doesn’t mean you can never improve your faults. But, only do this because you want to and because it makes sense for you to do so. Don’t do it because someone else wants you to do it. Of course, if those faults are putting your life in danger, hurting others, or they risk you losing your job, then you may have to consider making some changes.
If you find you want to make changes and correct some imperfections, don’t try to do everything all at once. It is a process of relearning and that is never a quick process. Therefore, don’t beat yourself up if you cannot make the changes in a few days or weeks. Sometimes, it may take you months or even years. Understanding that makes it easier to accept this constraint.
You will find people who don’t accept your faults. When this happens, it becomes their problem more than yours. They are not worth your time or energy, and you should try to avoid these people as much as possible. People who are overly critical are often going through issues and have faults of their own. There is no need to let them bring you down.
Permit yourself to have faults. Find people who can accept you for who you are and celebrate it. But, be willing to do the same for them. Once you establish this dynamic, you will find it easier to not only love them but to love yourself. You won’t have to keep putting energy where it doesn’t belong, criticizing yourself and others for faults.
Sometimes, it can be difficult to admit to faults that you have, and this is especially true with addictions. However, if you can come to terms with your faults, you are well on your way to opening up a happier you.